Is it wise to disseminate such advice? If people stop marrying, what will become of the family and our civilization?Personally I think that we have all learned the hard and painful lessons from the Terri Schaivo Crisis, and so many other variations on this gambit, that unless one is PAINFULLY CLEAR, which is to say that one has actually gone through the whole process of establishing all of the legal paperwork associated with a living trust, the fact that parents, or other 'family', will want to inject themselves, prevents any of the hard questions being rationally fought out first, and written up.
Marriage is already all but dead, legally speaking, and divorce is the principal reason. The fall in the Western birth rate is directly connected with divorce law.
It is also likely that same-sex marriage is being demanded only because of how heterosexuals have already debased marriage through divorce law. "The world of no-strings heterosexual hookups and 50% divorce rates preceded gay marriage," advocate Andrew Sullivan points out. "All homosexuals are saying...is that, under the current definition, there's no reason to exclude us. If you want to return straight marriage to the 1950s, go ahead. But until you do, the exclusion of gays is simply an anomaly – and a denial of basic civil equality."
( op cit )
Since there is this cultic desire to avoid the problems of how does one deal with 'the family' in this new fairy tale, that will get bogged down with a variety of other issues along the way....
The tragedy here is that so many heterosexuals thought that the state sponsored licence was suppose to give them some sort of majikal protection.... only to turn up hard pressed when they learn that they should have been following their gay friends to 'the other queer eyes crew' that dealt with the legal, medical, and finacial paperwork, that more Hets are learning are NOT a part of the cheeapy throw away 'marriage license' they got for free from the state.
This is a paroblem, tragically, that needs to be really addressed!!!
Should america remain a nation of laws? And if not, can we find some better solution to that legal set of problems that do not simply go away simply because of mere ideological incantations....
The other useful piece of advice might be that persons who are 'getting involved' need to work out what 'getting involved' really means. Is it merely a simple legal form of indemnification for not getting an orgazim? or is it an arrangement that comingles fiscal assets? What REALLY should be in that contract????
Or is that a part of the core problem. We may not be able to have a 'social contract' in the new era where we are threatened on all sides by the Gay HomoZeXual Iranian Flying Saucer Driving Pirate Zombie Canadianists, and so do not have any basis for mere reaonability....
Or is the really ugly part of the discussion that people allow the cultural myths of barbie doll to overload the reality of the real life we live....
Who knows, maybe with the transition to the new economic order, it will all get more streamlined..... especially since we are all SubPrime Now....
Hum.... what if we were to restore those biblical rights to concubines - why that would stream line when it really needs to be a marriage, and when is it merely concubinage.... yeah, that's the real restoration of our god given hand maiden's tale.